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Sometimes, it takes courage to quit. "If you want to be you have to do."-John Lee Dumas The Cheat Sheet: What was his first real train wreck in his life? Why quitting isn't just for quitters. Is luck part of the success equation according to John? How much of a runway did he give himself when he started his podcast? The impostor syndrome: what it is and how it almost crushed John. And so much more... Do you think it takes courage to quit something, or do you believe quitting is never justified? One of the most successful podcasters in the world had to quit time after time after time in order to achieve the level of success he has today. John Lee Dumas, the mastermind behind Entrepreneur on Fire and Podcaster's Paradise, joins us to talk about how he found the courage to quit throughout his 20s and the success that brought him in his 30s. Listen in for all of that and so much more on episode 349 of The Art of Charm. More About This Show: We live in a culture that glorifies 18-hour workdays, even if you're in

Be a boss and automate your savings. "Money amplifies our true self."-Mike Michalowicz The Cheat Sheet: What is Parkinson's Theory? ____ makes us lazy, Mike fills in the blank. Money has now become a mechanism for what? What is The Wedge and how do you apply it for a better life? How to and why to start saving money, no matter how much or how little you make. And so much more... Do you always tell yourself you'll save more when you make more money? Or maybe you did say that in the past but now you actually make more and still don't feel like you have enough to start saving. Here with solutions to both situations is the author of several books including Profit First, Mr. Mike Michalowicz. Mike has written extensively about profits, making money and entrepreneurship. But even if you don't have a business or you don't consider yourself an entrepreneur, this show is for you. Today we talk about putting profit first and expenses second, whatever your financial situation. Listen in for all of that and so much mor

Be in charge, no matter what. "Tension is what holds people's attention."-Oren Klaff The Cheat Sheet: Why repoire-building doesn't work. The power of scarcity in any scenario. What do you need to convince people? How long is the average human attention span? What's the power frame and why does it matter? And so much more... Have you ever wondered how someone shifts the power of a situation into their own hands? Do you find yourself feeling like you're the low man on the totem pole in any (or maybe every) area of your life? Even if you answered no to both of those questions, you'll want to hear this episode with Oren Klaff author of Pitch Anything. Oren helps people sell companies for a living. And not just any company, we're talking deals in $200 million range. Think that's not relevant to you? It is. High stakes, pressure-filled situations like the ones he's in magnify the buying behaviors in all of us. Whether you're asking a girl out, requesting a raise or pitching for funding for your latest business, y

How to have it all as a single dad. "You can be vulnerable, while still being confident."-Dave, single dad The Cheat Sheet: How to be confident AND vulnerable with everyone. Put an end to "Nice Guy Syndrome" once and for all. How to talk with your kids about anything. Reframing: how to apply it to everything from traffic to dating: How soon do you tell your date about your kids? And so much more… One of the most frequent questions I get asked comes from single dads, they want to know how to date now that they're fathers. So here to answer that question and to talk about the differences the live training Art of Charm programs have made in their lives are two single dads, Dave and Tom. Even if you aren't a dad this episode is beneficial for you; you'll hear from two graduates about what their lives were like before doing an AOC training and what their lives were like after. They talk candidly and frankly about themselves, fatherhood and the AOC programs. Join us for all of that and more on the 345th episode o

Author and financial advice favorite Tom Corley stops by to discuss his new book, "Rich Kids" and tell us how to teach our kids habits that will prepare them for success later in life. HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dug this episode, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from all the fluff out there. Ways to subscribe to The Art of Charm Click here to subscribe via iTunes Click here to subscribe via RSS You can also subscribe via Stitcher FEEDBACK + PROMOTION Hit us up with your comments and guest suggestions. We read EVERYTHING. Download the FREE AoC app for iPhone Email jordan@theartofcharm.com Give us a call at 888.413.7177 Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Happiness does make a difference. "Happiness is an incredible competitive advantage."-Shawn Achor The Cheat Sheet: Shawn gave a talk about happiness at the Pentagon: true or false? The science behind the contagiousness of happiness. The importance of mirror neurons explained. What is the 10-5 Way and how can it improve your life? At what point in her career was Oprah most depressed, and why should you care? And so much more... Is happiness a choice? And which comes first: happiness or success? Here to answer these questions is Shawn Achor, Ted Talk speaker, Harvard professor, positive psychology expert and author of The Happiness Advantage. Not only does he answer these questions (and more), he also provides the science to back up those answers. On this episode we'll discuss why happiness is such an advantage in every area of life, as well as some simple happiness hacks you can practice right now. Listen in for all of that and so much more on episode 344 of The Art of Charm. More About This Show: Shawn Acho

Create real friendships with people you admire. "If you want to stand out just do what you say you will and kick ass at it." -Scott Dinsmore The Cheat Sheet: Why not to go to a networking event, and what to do instead. One awesome way to add value: Scott shares. The Ben Franklin Effect: what is it and how can you use it? Why to never accept the first salary offer you receive. The 3-second Rule that applies to every area of your life. And so much more... You've probably heard the idea that you become the sum of your five closest friends, it's something we've talked about on the show before. So what do you do if you want to change those five closest friends and you want to create new friends to become the sum of? Scott Dinsmore of Live Your Legend is here to answer those questions and more. Today we talk about how to reach out and connect with the greatest influencers in your life, and how to set the stage for potential friendships and real connection. Join us for the 342nd edition of The Art of Charm. More A

Humor connects you and your audience. "There's nobody more judged than a stand-up comedian."-Jerry Seinfeld The Cheat Sheet: How to have people talking about your speech after it ends, in a good way. 22 hours of work go into 1 minute of a 60-minute stand up comedy set: true or false? Are keynotes dead? The rule of 3 ('tree'): what is it and how to use it. What is rehearsed spontaneity? And so much more... Have you ever been in the audience for a speech so boring everyone around you stopped listening and starting doing other things? Is it your worst fear that someday YOU will be speaking and will be that dull? David Nihill is here to help us all be better public speakers through comedy. David is a comedian and public speaker who was once terrified of being in front of an audience! Hear how he went from a terrified public speaker to a stand up comedian killing it on stage, and all the applicable comedy habits he learned along the way. Join us for all of that and more on episode 341 of The Art of Charm. More A

Veteran Jon Davis stops by to discuss readjusting to civilian life after deployment in Iraq, what employers will "just never get" about vets, and how to annoy a veteran in 3 easy steps. Happy Veterans' Day, and, if you're a vet, we thank you for serving. Support Jon Davis at http://www.patreon.com/ jondavis More Voices for Vets: http://voicesforvets.co HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dug this episode, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from all the fluff out there. FEEDBACK + PROMOTION Hit us up with your comments and guest suggestions. We read EVERYTHING. Download the FREE AoC app for iPhone Email jordan@theartofcharm.com Give us a call at 888.413.7177 Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Stay relevant in the workforce. "There is no linear career path anymore."-Dan Schawbel The Cheat Sheet: How many jobs do most people have between the ages of 18 and 45? 20% of the workforce is retiring in the next 4 years: true or false? Which are the top majors that land jobs after college? How to network effectively, even if you're an introvert. EQ or IQ: which is most desirable in a job seeker? And so much more... There's no denying it any longer, the workforce today is an entirely different animal than it was even a decade ago. Long gone are the days of working for one or perhaps two companies in your lifetime. Now most people will work in at least 3 different careers in their lifetimes, some of us will work in as many as six! And note that says careers, not jobs. If you're like millions of others trying to get a leg up on the fierce competition in the marketplace, we've brought in Dan Schawbel to talk about how. Dan is the author of Promote Yourself, and that's exactly the topic we dive into today. Dan

Do what would make your mom proud. "We don't live in a scarcity economy any more, we live in an abundant economy." -Seth Godin The Cheat Sheet: Is there really such a thing as writer's block? Why quitting and failing aren't the same, Seth explains. When and how to quit to be successful. The two categories of failing. Why 98% of people who start online classes don't finish them. What it means to serve people. And so much more... As the author of 17 books and an uber-successful entrepreneur who has started multiple companies, Seth Godin is a man who needs very little in the way of an introduction! He is looked to as a thought leader in marketing, communications and entrepreneurship. On today's episode he shares his thoughts on the creative process, what it means to be in "the dip" and how to succeed in business without having an exclusive focus on the bottom line. Listen in for details on all of that and so much more on the 336th episode of The Art of Charm. More About This Show: Believe it or not there was a

Circumstances don't define us. "I always do anything I do as if I'm at stake and I have everything to lose."-Pejman Ghadimi The Cheat Sheet: The good is the enemy of the great. What are Pejman's three circles and why do they matter? The fear that holds most of us back: what is it? How he focused on making his life count for more than just making money. It's easier to accept failure than to seek success: true or false? How to start a business if you only have an idea and nothing else. And so much more... When most people think of entrepreneurship today they generally think of the glitz and glamour of making so-called "easy money" on the Internet and working for themselves. Rarely do they think of value creation, which is what our guest for today says is at the very heart of being an entrepreneur. Joining us for episode 335 is self-made multi-millionaire and value creator Pejman Ghadimi. Today he shares his personal story of how he became financially independent by 25 as well as "Secret Entourage" and third c

Find out what women really want (it's science!) "As humans we are not a species that runs on physical dominance; we are a species that runs on social status, respect."-Dr. Geoff Miller The Cheat Sheet: What body types are women most attracted to? (13:00) Phenotype: what is it and why should you care? (18:40) IUDs vs. The Pills: the details you need to know (and yes you actually do). (33:00) Why women want men with money- it's not because they're gold diggers. (36:45) The correlation between the cost of shoes and how attractive women find them: explained. (38:45) Dr. Miller uses science to debunk The Alpha Male myth. (46:35) And so much more... What do women really want in a man? It seems to be a question men have asked themselves and have been trying to answer for centuries. If you're tired of wondering and you want actual answers to help you better understand, connect and have quality relationships with women then have a listen to today's show. Our guest is Dr. Geoff Miller, is evolutionary psychologist at

It's better if you tell your own story. "In order to be successful today we have to make reinvention a constant part of our repetoire."-Dorie Clark The Cheat Sheet: Elements of a personal brand: what are they and how can you use them? (7:00) Why the days of being a "lifer" are over. (12:00) How you can determine and define your personal brand. (21:00) The wingman strategy and how it can enhance EVERY area of your life. (27:30) Why having no online presence is just as much of a red flag as a negative one. (41:00) How to have attention and respect before you walk into any meeting. (44:00) And so much more... Do you think personal brands are only for the likes of Dr. Phil, Oprah Winfrey and CEOs? Think again. In today's workplace we all have a personal brand, and too few of us are managing it. So says our guest for today's show, Dorie Clark. Dorie is the author of Reinventing You, a former presidential campaign spokeswoman and regular contributor to Harvard Business Review, Forbes and Entrepreneur magazine. To

Experiment with your own life. "I wouldn't say fail faster, I'd say fail more. For every ten failures you're going to get one success."-AJ Jacobs The Cheat Sheet: Digital reminders: how to use them to become happier. (10:00) How to use the Song of Solomon to get a date. (14:40) Radical honesty: can it be effective in dating and relationships? (19:30) Cafeteria Religion defined. (24:45) The Odysseus Strategy:what it is and how to use it to make yourself happier. (27:35) Posture affects your testosterone levels: true or false? (44:40) And so much more... If you lived your life as an experiment and you became a human guinea pig what would that be like? What would you try out and what do you think you could learn? Our guest for episode 332 has done this several times and discovered so much through each experiment. AJ Jacobs is a four-time New York Times best-selling author who has used his life as an experiment on several occasions, and then written about it to share with all of us. For example, he once spent a

Give your all while you can. "I want to know that on my last day when they lay me down in my grave, I am not taking my best work to the grave with me."-Todd Henry The Cheat Sheet: The best possible education experience you can have. (10:30) Should anyone go to college? (20:50) The key to overcoming America's economic malaise revealed. (27:00) Why it's never too late to enter the marketplace. (29:50) What's one of the biggest issues people have, according to Todd? (32:10) The most valuable land in the world is where? (37:30) And so much more... If you chose to live today by the motto "die empty" what would you do differently? What projects would you start, what relationships would you enrich and which would you let go of? These two words became the motto for this episode's guest few years ago and they had such an impact that he decided to write a book on the topic. Todd Henry, author of Die Empty, joins us to talk about the value of going to college or not going, the deadly sins of mediocrity, how to avoid b

It only takes one. "Assertiveness and kindness is the combination most attractive to women." -Scott Kaufman The Cheat Sheet: Dopamine is the pleasure molecule: true or false? (7:25) Scott defines a true alpha male. (18:40) The Dark Triad revealed: is it as ominous as it sounds? (19:10) What is positive psychology really about? (31:00) Why chat-up lines don't work. (39:50) Mate copying: what does the term mean? (43:10) And so much more... If you've listened to the show before, you know we don't buy into the whole "alpha or beta male" mindset that is so prevalent in society right now. At the Art of Charm we stand on the belief that men are far more than just "alpha tough guys" or "beta door mats". And today Scott Kaufman, Scientific Director at the Imagination Institute and author of Mating Intelligence Unleashed, shares the science behind that belief. On this episode, we talk about why the "alpha-beta" thing is far too simplistic, what the dark triad/bad boy thing is all about, and why assertiveness, kindnes

Negative self-talk amplifies painful experiences. "We need to monitor our emotional health like we monitor our physical health. It has nothing to do with self-esteem, it has nothing to do with masculinity." -Guy Winch The Cheat Sheet: Why avoidance doesn't work and can actually make areas of your life worse. (10:30) Chronic loneliness is like smoking a pack of cigarettes a day: true or false? (16:50) Stewing vs doing: how and why to avoid the former. (26:20) Why affirmations are not useful. (36:20) Failure distorts our perceptions: the study that proves this. (41:35) How negative self-talk damages your emotional state even more than the actual event. (49:30) And so much more... If we all learned from childhood on how to take care of our emotional hurts, our pains and our struggles, what do you think the world would look like? Probably an incredibly different place than it does today. One person helping us move in that direction is our guest for episode 328, Dr. Guy Winch. Guy is the author of Emotional Firs

No one has the right to hold you back. "There's nothing more important than knowing who you are, the path you are on and its final end." -Dandapani The Cheat Sheet: Why you should make your bed every day. (5:10) They watched 30 minutes of the news in his monastery: true or false? (14:20) The hierarchy of where to spend your energy as a parent and spouse. (27:50) What the law of thermodynamics has to do with relationships. (35:05) Affectionate detachment: what is it and do you need to implement it? (46:20) Why happiness should never be your goal in life. (54:05) And so much more... When you think of a monk do you think of coding, a Macbook Pro and lessons about life? Maybe the last of those three pops to mind but certainly the first two don't! And that is what makes our guest for episode 327 so interesting. Dandapani is a Hindu monk who lived in a Hawaiian monastery where they gave him a MacBook Pro and he spent some of his time coding websites! On today's show we talk about his origin story as a monk, how t

Alex Kouts gives us the edge we need to overcome our fear of negotiating and make deals that benefit both sides of any arrangement. The Cheat Sheet: Why everybody's price is an f-you price, according to Alex. (11:15) How to emotionally prepare for awkwardness of negotiations. (23:20) BATNA: what is it and why is it so important? (31:10) Why women are better at negotiating than men. (32:30) When to apply the silent strategy. (35:05) What's the nuclear option in negotiation and how do you know when to push the red button? (48:30). And so much more... Find out more about the team who makes The Art of Charm podcast here! Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/alex-kouts-art-negotiating-episode-326/ HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need. Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereview Stay Charming! Learn