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Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #48! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend!In this episode:Was Cal Newport's advice to entrepreneurs in episode 482 of The Art of Charm too practical? (We get some clarification from the source.)As the new guy on the job, you might expect some lighthearted newbie-ribbing from your boss and coworkers -- but what do you do when it seems to cross the line between having fun and making you appear incompetent?The Art of Charm's not for everybody.What's our advice to a teacher who is wondering how to give out advice to students (especially regarding the go to college/don't go to college conundrum)?How do you hug someone without being awkward or creepy?Is six months too soon to make a genuine proposal to your foreign-born sweetheart who may otherwise face deportation?We should revel in having awesome friends instead of comparing ourselves to them. Jordan tells us how to stop comparing ourselves to others in

Dov Gordon (@dovgordon) helps consultants, experts, and small professional service firms build a steady, consistent, predictable flow of ideal clients. He also tells us why it's important to take "Seddon Days" by putting our priorities in perspective and what we can learn by pondering the gravity of The Last Webinar.The Cheat Sheet:As a business owner, why would you ever take on a client who's not a good fit?What was The Last Webinar, and what does it mean to take a Seddon Day?Ask yourself Mike's five questions from The Last Webinar.Do you postpone life for work? If so, why are you working?It's not morbid to consider the welfare of your loved ones if you should shuffle off your mortal coil before they do -- it's practical.And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/dov-gordon-the-last-webinar-episode-484/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible a

Pat Flynn (@patflynn) helps entrepreneurs build and grow successful online businesses with his book Will It Fly?: How to Test Your Next Business Idea So You Don't Waste Your Time and Money and the Smart Passive Income podcast and blog.The Cheat Sheet:An entrepreneur needs to develop a mindset of steely resolve to overcome resistance from family, friends, not-friends, and -- most important -- him or herself.How do you assure your worried spouse you're mitigating risk for a new venture and not condemning your family to bankruptcy (without falling into the switchtracking trap)?Would you pass The Airport Test?Use these four quadrants to determine what makes (or would make) your life awesome.Try the 3 Ps Exercise to make sure your business plan is worth pursuing before wasting your time and money.And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/pat-flynn-will-it-fly-episode-483/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what help

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #47! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend. To mix things up a little, AJ joins us for this episode!In this episode:What's the difference between confidence and arrogance, and how can you make sure you're gaining the former while losing the latter?How can you slow your roll and stop habitually falling madly in love on first dates?Should you get romantically involved with an old flame who's "only" separated?What do you do when your best friend's spouse seems to hate you?How should you address self-deprecation while flirting?Is there any way to atone for awkward interactions you've had in the past with people who frequent your usual haunts?When you stop fretting about figuring out your life's passion, it may just find you. Channel your energy into more play time and watch this video!Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@theartofcharm.com!Show note

Cal Newport (@calnewport) shows us how to cultivate meaningful and successful working lives while debunking the "follow your passion" advice that lesser professors peddle to the masses. The Cheat Sheet: Why is "follow your passion" bad advice -- and what are some better alternatives? The traits that make work great are rare and valuable -- so you need rare and valuable skills (career capital) in the workplace. How does cognitive residue significantly reduce our cognitive capacity (and how can we lessen its impact in our modern world of countless distractions)? Understand the difference between a craftsman mindset and a passion mindset -- and which will serve you better. Working right trumps finding the right work. And so much more... Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/cal-newport-so-good-they-cant-ignore-you-episode-482/ HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the

Cameron Herold (@CameronHerold) tells us how we can double our revenue and profit in three years or less in his book Double Double.The Cheat Sheet:What's the real harm in a serial entrepreneur's lack of focus?Sometimes, working backwards is the best way forward.What does R&D really stand for?Learn why you should work on your B team to make them A players and lose the C players.Focus your learning on what's coming next.And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/cameron-herold-double-double-episode-481/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #46! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend! Kim Seltzer joins Jordan in this episode to offer a genuine therapist's perspective. Enjoy!In this episode:What dating advice do we have for a couple in a 14-year marriage who just decided to start swinging?How do you deal with a workplace bully who stalks you, threatens violence against you, tries to sabotage your career, and makes you wary of trusting anyone?Is a confident, married wingwoman hurting her single friends' chances at romance more than she's helping them?How do you get your best friend to stop idealizing and pining for his ex-girlfriend and move on with his life?What do you do when you've given up on all religions, but only seem to  attract women who have strong ties to their faith?What's the benefit of outdressing your colleagues (especially when your colleagues dress like day-drinking beach drifters)?How do you fix sabotaging self-talk? Jorda

Linda Carroll (@Lovecycleslinda) practices and teaches the skills of learning to love wholeheartedly by looking at what gets in the way, and discusses her book Love Cycles: The Five Essential Stages of Lasting Love.The Cheat Sheet:There are five natural stages through which romantic relationships cycle: The Merge, Doubt and Denial, Disillusionment, Decision, and Wholehearted Love.Why does "falling in love" make us do crazy things?When your relationship winds up in an anxiety-fueled loop, how can you break out?What does Linda recommend for spicing up a perfunctory sex life?Understand these three components of good sex: desire, arousal, and orgasm.And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/linda-carroll-love-cycles-episode-480/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcha

Bill Caskey and Bryan Neale (@advancedselling) of The Advanced Selling Podcast show us we don't have to be in sales to master our "inner game" mindset and get what we want out of life.The Cheat Sheet:Whether we realize it or not, we're all in sales -- no matter what we're trying to accomplish.Understand that your philosophy has an impact on your words and results.Learn how the age-old concept of detachment gives you the power in virtually any situation -- and makes you attractive to your audience.Discover what amateurs say and sound like -- and how to be professional in what you do.Check out this language framework to use in your next meaningful conversation.And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/bill-caskey-and-bryan-neale-advanced-selling-episode-479/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We re

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #45! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend!In this episode:How can you objectively qualify relationship red flags in your own situation when your people-pleasing tendencies have blurred the current boundaries on which that relationship was founded?How do you build your socializing and friendship skills up when depression has made you take a long hiatus from being around people?To what extent should one allow the workplace to touch one's personal life (especially when one-sided romantic interest pierces the usual veil of professionalism)?They say practice makes perfect -- are you missing out on this practice by not dating casually when you've made a choice to wait until you're more ready to settle down?What advice does a former kidnapping victim have for someone who keeps getting "manjacked?"If you know you're moving to another country soon, is it wrong to lead on "a sure thing" without telling them?Ho

Maria Konnikova (@mkonnikova) shows us how we can defend ourselves against would-be con artists and use the same principles for more benign purposes in her new book The Confidence Game.The Cheat Sheet:As it turns out, you can fool an honest man. But cynics -- by their own overconfidence in being savvy and "scamproof" -- are just as susceptible to deception. Technology and the abundance of information most of us freely surrender to the Internet makes the con artist's job easier than ever before.What type of person becomes a con artist?How can we avoid getting scammed?Understand how belief works, why we over-believe in some things (even when we have no evidence for them), and how this plays into our susceptibility to deception.And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/maria-konnikova-the-confidence-game-episode-478/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the

Steve Kamb (@stevekamb) gives us a blueprint to follow, based on game mechanics and nerd culture, to finally accomplish things in our lives we've always wanted but never found the time for in his first book, Level Up Your Life.The Cheat Sheet:Stuck in a rut? Need to get in shape and add more adventure to your life? Take your own hero's journey and stop letting fictional characters have all the fun.What is The Progress Principle, and how does it help us stay motivated in pursuit of larger goals?How can you ensure you'll return to your hero's journey when you occasionally falter (as most mere mortals do from time to time)?Life is a multiplayer game.Learn how to identify and quantify your fear, and then take action and use that fear to succeed.And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/steve-kamb-level-up-your-life-episode-477/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help peopl

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #44! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend!Because Jordan is out of town, Kim Seltzer joins Jason for today's Fan Mail Friday!In this episode:How does someone with Tourette syndrome make good first impressions?How do you break up with someone who has mental health issues?What do you do when you're happy with where you live, but your spouse wants to move to a city that's a thousand miles away?How does a woman who already has a boyfriend make new platonic male friends without leading anyone on?How does someone who's been out of the dating scene for a while due to self-confidence issues get back into it -- especially in an unfamiliar town?What really creates attraction? (And what do you do when you find yourself constantly attracted to the "wrong" people?)Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@theartofcharm.com!Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com

Jon Acuff (@JonAcuff) shares how we can rescue Monday, reinvent our work, and never get stuck -- at any age or stage of career -- in his new book Do Over.The Cheat Sheet:90 percent of Americans are disengaged from work -- are you among them?If you spend as many hours watching television as the average American, binge-ification is ruining your hustle.In spite of its current trendiness, most people shouldn't be entrepreneurs. (Though those who are geared for it wouldn't have it any other way.)Anyone can't do everything. Examples: Not everyone should write a book. Not everyone should release an album. Not everyone should try out for the NFL.Ask these five questions to figure out what skills you really have.And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/jon-acuff-do-over-episode-476/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the sh

John Lee Dumas (@johnleedumas) shows us how use the SMART goal system from his new Freedom Journal to accomplish a number one objective in 100 days.The Cheat Sheet:What is the number one reason some entrepreneurs succeed while others fail?Which is more likely to win the battle of changing your life: the physical presence of a giant book that constantly reminds you of its presence versus just another easily ignored app?What's the advantage of trying to accomplish one goal in 100 days over trying to accomplish several? FOCUS (Follow One Course Until Success).How do you ensure your one goal is SMART (Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, Timely)?Can a regular goal be turned into a SMART goal partway through?And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/john-lee-dumas-smart-goals-episode-475/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they ne

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #43! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend!In this episode:How do you keep your work ethic strong when you're surrounded by countless distractions and people whose goals are short-sighted?What are the best habits you can cultivate if you're looking to improve yourself?What adjustments and expectations will make a move from the country to the big city go as smoothly as possible?It would seem like you dodged a bullet when an ex-fiance breaks it off and moves back in with the terrible boyfriend she had before you -- if it weren't for the fact she's carrying your unborn child. What do you do now?If you're afraid to strike up conversations with strangers, what are some exercises you can do to beat approach anxiety?How do you date when you're living with your parents for the next few years while paying off a massive debt?How do you find a positive in every negative?Have any questions, comments, or stories y

Rob Scott (@rob_scott) is a master coach known for hijacking people's minds, rewiring their limiting beliefs, and leaving them completely transformed.The Cheat Sheet:Why is self-sabotage such a common characteristic among human beings, and how can we break away from it?Our beliefs are like lenses; they alter the way we view reality, and they're designed to be invisible -- which can make changing faulty beliefs all the more difficult.What's the "ninja move" that will help you identify and correct your own lenses?Learn how Rob overcame three decades of rough personal history to triumph over a victim mindset and take responsibility for his own course of actions -- even through a life-threatening illness.There are three steps to changing your limiting beliefs: awareness (look), new choice (challenge), and subconscious pattern (replace).And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/rob-scott-identity-shifting-mastermind-episode-474/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please su

The Art of Charm team (@TheArtofCharm) recounts personal favorite episodes from 2015. Did your favorite episode get left out? Leave a comment and let us know!The Cheat Sheet:Could you name your five favorite Art of Charm episodes from 2015?Are you sure?You just thought of another five, didn't you?Or was it more like 10? 20? 30?It's almost impossible, but we tried! Here are the results.And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/aoc-best-of-2015-episode-473/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #42! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend!In this episode:Does consistently getting bored with people you date indicate there's a problem with you?What happens when you're only attracted to people who are "super hot" -- and what's wrong with grading potential romantic interests on a scale of one to 10?How can long-distance relationships become long-lasting relationships?Can we make shorter, more condensed Art of Charm podcasts?Do you need to change your technique to pick up people of another ethnicity or culture?What happens in Reno doesn't always stay in Reno.How to stop worrying and assume a positive outcome, instead.Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@theartofcharm.com!Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/fan-mail-friday-42-what-happens-in-reno/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and w

Shawn Rafferty (@SafetyBlueprint) is here to show us how to avoid being victimized by harnessing the key principles of situational and observational awareness and making them a permanent part of our daily routine.The Cheat Sheet:What's more important than knowing how to react to a confrontation?Learning how to avoid danger is less of an investment of time and energy than learning how to fight -- and more likely to keep you alive.What are the differences between situational and observational awareness?Even though we statistically live during the safest time in human history, cultivating a natural awareness of potential threats pays off more than willful blindness when bad people mark you as an easy target.Learn some tips for becoming a hard target.And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/shawn-rafferty-the-safety-blueprint-episode-472/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd an