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In today’s episode, we cover how to focus on what matters most with Dr. Steven Hayes. Steven C. Hayes is a professor and author of 44 books and nearly 600 scientific articles, his career has focused on an analysis of the nature of human language and cognition and the application of this to the understanding and alleviation of human suffering. It’s easy to let your life get derailed when you don’t have a solid understanding of what matters to you, but what can you do to determine your guiding values and how can you differentiate between the important thoughts you have and those that just distract you? What to Listen For What are the 6 processes can you implement to lead a more intentional life you find fulfilling? Why is the pursuit of good feelings and avoidance of bad feelings detrimental to the human experience? Why is it important to learn how to feel, and how do you learn how to appreciate “bad” feelings? What exercise can you do before seeing someone to put yourself in a great mood? How do

In today’s episode, we cover belief systems with Dr. Stan Beecham. Dr. Beecham is a sport psychologist, the director and founding member of the Leadership Resource Center, and the author of Elite Minds: How Winners Think Differently to Create a Competitive Edge and Maximize Success. Beliefs define how we think about ourselves and the world around us, so what can you do to examine your own beliefs and understand if they are leading you to a better life or a worse one, and how can you change your beliefs if you realize they’re leading you down the wrong path? What to Listen For What questions can you ask yourself to better understand your beliefs and values and how they influence your behavior? Why is it important to the people around you for you to work on yourself and constantly strive to be better? Why is happiness the wrong goal to aim for if you want a fulfilling life, and what should you aim for instead? Why is it important to examine your values and beliefs? How do your beliefs and values infl

In today’s episode, we cover the necessity of routines with Charles Duhigg. Charles is a Pulitzer-prize winning American journalist and non-fiction author, was a reporter for The New York Times, and has authored two books on habits and productivity, titled The Power of Habit: Why We Do What We Do in Life and Business and Smarter Faster Better. Routines are more important than we give them credit for, but why, what happens if we don’t establish routines for ourselves, and how can you build a great routine even when your world has been turned upside down? What to Listen For Why are routines so important for humans? What questions can you ask to spark interesting conversations instead of small talk? How can you consume entertainment in a way that nurtures your creativity and ability to lead interesting conversations? What can you do to find and identify experts you can trust? How do you distinguish between someone who is genuinely seeking advice and someone who is just venting? Why is mindset important w

In today’s episode, we answer your questions and cover the All In Method with Alexandra Jamieson and Bob Gower. Alexandra is the bestselling author of five books, and co-creator / co-star of the Oscar-nominated documentary Super Size Me, and Bob is a New York-based consultant, writer, and speaker. All of us have different values and beliefs guiding us through life, and the differences between two people can lead to damaging friction if they are not dealt with directly, so what can you do to get everyone on the same page and working toward a common goal while respecting each other? What to Listen For What is the All In Method (AIM) and how can you use it to maintain and strengthen your relationships, especially with those you work with? What questions can you ask yourself and others to develop more empathy and strengthen relationships with those you care about or work with? What is the value of boundaries and how do you start a conversation about your boundaries? Why can being rigid with your boundaries

In today’s episode, we cover critical feedback and how to ask for it with Steve Herz. Steve is President of The Montag Group, a sports and entertainment talent and marketing consultancy, and a career advisor to CEOs, lawyers, entrepreneurs, and young professionals. Critical feedback is important for our growth, but asking for it and receiving it can be challenging because people who care about us are generally hesitant to tell us anything negative about ourselves, so what can we do to get the feedback we need to improve? What to Listen For Why is critical feedback important to our growth and success, and how can we get better at receiving it? What can you do to get the feedback you need to grow in a culture where people seem to coddle each other out of fear of how you might respond to critical feedback? How do you ask for feedback in such a way that allows people to feel comfortable offering critical feedback rather than just saying something to make you feel good? How much of your success is determined

In today’s episode, we cover what it means to achieve mastery of a subject or skill with Dr. Michael Gervais, a high performance psychologist working in the trenches of high-stakes environments with some of the best in the world, training the mindset skills and practices essential to pursuing and revealing one’s potential Mastering anything takes some talent, but it also takes consistent practice and a persistent mindset, so what can you do to cultivate the mindset required for mastery, what do you need to push through the pain along the way, and how can comparing your journey to others stop you from achieving your potential? What to Listen For What does it mean to achieve mastery of a skill or subject, and why can comparing our progress to others hinder our ability to achieve mastery? Why is it important for your mental and physical well being to live in the present moment? What steps can you take today to make sure you are focused on the present so you don’t get depressed about the past or anxious abou

In today’s episode, we cover with Keith Ferrazzi what it means to lead without authority. Keith is an American entrepreneur, recognized global thought leader in the relational and collaborative sciences, and NYT best selling author of Leading Without Authority and Never Eat Alone. There is more to leadership than telling other people what to do, so what does it mean to lead without authority, what can you do today to become a better leader, and how can you inspire vulnerability and empathy in the people around you? What to Listen For What can you do as a leader to create a great space for people to be vulnerable, therefore allowing stronger bonds to form? Why are intimacy and empathy crucial to forming strong bonds with the people around you and what can you do to foster such an environment? How much vulnerability is too much when you’re in a position of leadership? What does co-elevation mean and why is it important to have co-elevating relationships with the people around us? How do you set boundarie

In today’s episode, we cover the 7 steps to unshakable confidence with David Nurse. David is an NBA life and optimization coach, future bestselling author, and worldwide motivational speaker. Confidence can be developed with consistent practice like any other skill, but what concrete steps can you take everyday to achieve the confidence you’ve always wanted? What to Listen For What is the common denominator of professional athletes that lead to success? Can you compare yourself to others in a healthy and positive way? How do you get people to be good teammates if they’re more concerned about themselves or their ego? What are the 7 steps you can take to achieve unshakable confidence? What does it mean to vote for yourself and why should you start voting for yourself now? What can you do to remind yourself of your potential to keep you from wasting time and falling into stagnation? What tips can you use to make your mornings and evenings effective parts of your day? How do you rewire your brain for t

In today’s episode, we answer your questions and cover FOMO with the person who coined the term, Patrick McGinnis. Patrick is a venture capitalist, writer, and speaker who coined the term FOMO, which was added to the Oxford English Dictionary in 2013. FOMO is nothing new but it seems worse now that we have endless options at our fingertips via the internet and social media, so how can we minimize the negative impacts of it and even turn it around and use it to help us make better decisions? What to Listen For What is FOMO and how does it challenge you when it comes to making small and big decisions? Does FOMO subside as we age? How has the COVID pandemic impacted our FOMO and will it be better or worse after pandemic passes? What does FOBO mean and how is it different from FOMO? Why is FOMO good for us and how do you prevent it from ruining your ability to enjoy life? When faced with a big decision and heavy FOMO, what can you do to make the best decision for your future without regretting the other o

Do you want to have control over your mentality and reactions? On today’s episode of the Art of Charm podcast, AJ Harbinger and Johnny Dzubak are joined by Dan Harris, the co-anchor of ABC News' Nightline and author of the bestselling book 10% Happier. Dan discusses his work with 10% Happier, the importance of meditation, and it's functionality. Tune in to get in tune with your mental wellbeing. Episode Resources: Check out Dan's books,10% Happier and Meditation For Fidgety Skeptics Listen to the 10% Happier Podcast Try the 10% Happier App What you’ll learn: [00:01:17] What is the benefit of living in a big city during the pandemic It’s a gamble to be in cities during the pandemic with high population density as it’s easier to pass illness where more people are gathered. [00:06:55] How do you get out of the loop of uncertainty in goal orientation and accountability towards future planning and events Focusing on mental health and doing activities like meditation to assist those efforts. [00:

On this special episode of the Art of Charm podcast, we're digging into 5 values and how they relate to the current issues that we're facing, 5 things that we think everyone should be doing to become more informed to start taking action, and finally 5 of our favorite charities to help start pushing the social needle in the right direction. Episode Resources: Donate to the ACLU Help Fuel the Fight - NAACP Donate to Mutual Aid Support EmbraceRace Support the Equal Justice Initiative Send Us Your Questions The Art of Charm Network A Word From Our Sponsors Stop the stress and anxiety your debt is causing. Find out how you can talk to a freedom debt solutions expert and get your free personalized debt consultation today. Go to FreedomDebtSolutions.com/CHARM Check-in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube Send us your questions Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today’s episode, we cover what it means to change someone’s mind with Jonah Berger. Jonah is a marketing professor at the Wharton School at the University of Pennsylvania and internationally bestselling author of Contagious, Invisible Influence, and The Catalyst: How to Change Anyone’s Mind. The art of persuading others goes back as far as humans have had ideas we wanted to convey to others, but what does it mean to change someone’s mind, how do we persuade people to change, and how can your understanding of persuasion save you from getting sold on bad ideas? What to Listen For Why are we as humans so resistant to changing our minds? What are the 5 roadblocks to change and how can we remove them so we and those around us can grow? What strategies can we use to get people to buy into an idea rather than trying to push the idea onto them? How can you ask the right questions to allow people to make better decisions? What can we do to create a catalyst for other people to change? Why is DropBox a great

Technology has had an undeniable impact on our society, in good and bad ways, so what are the bad ways, how can we mitigate the damage they cause, and what can we do to use these tools for good in our lives and those around us? What to Listen For What is the ICAN acronym and how can it help you achieve a social flow state and help you be your most authentic self? What questions can you ask yourself to stay mindful as we continue integrating technology into our daily lives? What is passive browsing versus active browsing and why does one have a negative impact on your well being? What can you do if you feel your team is missing the energy and motivation you were hoping for? How can you make Zoom meetings fun and engaging when everyone seems preoccupied with what’s going on around them? What simple, free technique can you implement as a leader to improve your team’s effectiveness as well as your well being and effectiveness? What is social flow, why do you need to understand it, and how can you tap into

Many of us have heard the phrase, “Happiness is a choice” - but what does a happiness expert think about that and what can you do if you feel like you’re unable to make that choice? What to Listen For What are the Four Tendencies and how do they determine how you respond to expectations and your ability to be happy? What’s the alternative if you feel you can’t just choose to be happy? What steps can you take in your environment that will make it easier to be happy? What does it mean for emotions to be contagious and how can your understanding of it help prevent you from feeling down? How do novelty and challenge contribute so significantly to your ability to be happy? What can you do to raise your self-awareness? What can you do if you find yourself being the victim of analysis paralysis so you don’t waste too much time thinking about a decision? Once you understand your tendency, how do you recognize the Four Tendencies in others and what is the best way to work with them or help them reach their po

It’s no surprise that many of us can be overwhelmed with the day-to-day events of our lives, so how are we supposed to plan for so many unforeseen events like the COVID-19 pandemic, what is upstream thinking and why is it relevant today more than ever? What to Listen For What is the difference between upstream and downstream thinking and why can one lead you to a life of cyclical misery? What is unique about the American healthcare system that has led to us only focusing downstream? What is quiet competence and why does it make us less attentive to potential catastrophes? How can we get people to think more upstream so we are not impacted so negatively by crises? What is psychological standing and how does it prevent you from doing the right thing in a wide range of situations we find ourselves in regularly? What are the 7 questions leaders need to ask themselves if they don’t want to fail miserably at handling the next upstream problem? What can you do to unite the right people to handle a complicate

In today’s episode, we cover dealing with uncertainty and stress with Dr. Domenick Sportelli. Dr. Domenick is a board certified physician in adult general psychiatry and child & adolescent psychiatry, and is widely sought-after for his expertise on the latest in medical behavioral health, child/family psychiatry, and neuropharmacology. Introduction This is an era of uncertainty we haven’t faced in this generation and it’s wreaking havoc on many of us psychologically, so what can you do to better cope with the stress and loneliness you might be feeling and what should you be doing as a parent to be a good role model for your kids? What to Listen For How do we deal with uncertainty and stress many of us are dealing with in isolation? How much of a psychological toll is the pandemic taking on medical professionals? What kind of psychological fallout will we be facing as we recover from the COVID-19 pandemic and what can we do to prepare ourselves? What should we tell our kids about COVID-19 and how do we t

Being stuck at home right now can feel like you’re putting your life on pause, but it doesn’t have to - so what can you do to keep working on yourself especially when it comes to being social or stretching your comfort zone? What to Listen For How did Yes Theory get their start and what can you learn from them that could enable you to achieve your dreams so faster than you thought possible? Why is it important to try things that scare you? How do you know when you’ve done enough planning before doing? When was the tipping point for the Art of Charm? How do you improve your social skills if you’re scared to go out and talk to strangers? When can you take advantage of practicing small talk with minimal effort to improve your social skills? What’s the first step you can take to build a growth mindset during or after the quarantine period? How do you stay motivated in the dating world when regular rejection is an integral part of the process? If you want to achieve great things for yourself, it’s impor

This is a trying time for the restaurant industry and any business that relies on social gathering, so what can business owners do to not only survive this pandemic, but thrive in it and after it? What to Listen For What does the future of the restaurant industry look like in a post COVID world and how might restaurants need to evolve in order to survive? Why do we have to motivate and communicate differently at work during this pandemic, and what is the best way to do both? How can this pandemic have a disastrous lingering effect on our ability to move forward as a society and what can we do to save ourselves from the aftermath? What should restaurants do to adapt during this pandemic so they can survive until things are normal again? What can we do to support the restaurant industry during this incredibly difficult time when people are avoiding going out? How do you view a crisis as an opportunity so you can come out ahead when so many people are complaining and just treading water or giving up? Wha

It can be difficult to get ahead at work when someone else is always taking credit for what the team does, but what can you do to deal with selfish individuals in a professional manner, how can you be a giver and not get taken advantage of, and how do matchers balance givers and takers? What to Listen For What are 5 minute favors and how can you use them to build a powerful network? How do you deal with selfish personalities who always try to take credit for the success of the team? What can you do if you’re a giver (versus a taker) and you’re struggling to show your value in the workplace? What are matchers and why are they important to balance givers and takers? What would Adam Grant change about “Give and Take” if he were to rewrite it today? What question should you ask a hiring manager to get an actual understanding of a company’s culture? Are extroverts better leaders than introverts? While it’s frowned upon to be a taker, it’s also not great for your own well being to be too much of a giver,

Procrastination is associated with laziness by many, but the science shows us otherwise - so if procrastinators aren’t lazy then why do we assume they are, what can you do about your procrastination if you want to change it, and why is now the best time to overcome your procrastination habit? What to Listen For What can you do today to overcome your procrastination habits? How do we redesign jobs that now have to operate from a distance? Why is it more challenging to work remotely and what can you do to overcome them so you don’t lose your job? What questions can you ask someone to help them figure out what motivates them so you can help them become a happier and more productive employee? What can we do as leaders to help our coworkers and employees grapple with the loneliness that accompanies working from home for many people? What is one of the most powerful antidotes to loneliness that we can give people any time? What simple exercise can you go through with your employees or coworkers to immedia