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Welcome to Minisode Monday, where we kick off the week with something quick and actionable -- to make you more magnetic and effective -- that you can implement right away. Ryan Michler (@orderofman) of Order of Man joins us to discuss how we can apply The After Action Review to better process -- and learn from -- our mistakes and successes. The Cheat Sheet: The After Action Review is a debriefing process that helps process recent successes and failures in order to learn from them. It consists of asking five questions: What did I get accomplished? What did I not accomplish? What did I do well? What did I not do well? What can I do better next time? To learn more about social dynamics and productivity hacks, take the Art of Charm Challenge by clicking here, or text CHARMED to 33444. Also be sure to check out our Social Capital Intensive here! Let us know about how you put today's Minisode Monday into practice! Tweet with @TheArtofCharm in your response or write to Jordan directly: jordan@theartofcharm.com (he

Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we'll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right! In this episode: If high school and college didn't give you the best years of your life, it just means "the good old days" are probably still ahead. Are you lazy, disenchanted by a lack of challenges, or just afraid to fail? Have you considered the merits of self-deprecation? Criticism loses its potential for being constructive if it's not specific enough. Will your actions make the boat go faster? Relationships in the age of social media can be tricky, as we talked about in FMF 102. Did you know that Facebook has breakup tools? Jennie has a brilliant tip for people who are running late. Wasted potential is depressing. Quick shoutouts to Andrew Byrne and Jordan Laverty! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@theartofcharm.com! Check out Jordan's other show: The Forbes List, and Jason's other show: Grumpy Old

Brett McKay (@artofmanliness) is the founder of Art of Manliness, one of the largest independent men's lifestyle sites on the Web. Similarities in the naming schemes between AoM and AoC are purely coincidental! The Cheat Sheet: What is manliness? What are the domains -- the hard and soft skills -- an aspiring well-rounded man should develop? Why men of any culture should strive to be useful, not important. How to increase resilience by challenging your faulty "Me, Always, Everything" style of thinking. Why action -- and not getting stuck in your own head -- is the key to flourishing. And so much more... Want to reach the fabled inbox zero? SaneBox learns what email is important to you and filters out what isn't. Visit sanebox.com/artofcharm today and you'll get an extra $25 credit on top of the two-week free trial! Are you trying to hire the right person for your business, but the best candidates keep slipping away? Let ZipRecruiter -- the fastest way to hire great people -- help you screen only the best he

Robert H. Frank (@econnaturalist) is the HJ Louis Professor of Economics at Cornell University and author of Success and Luck: Good Fortune and the Myth of Meritocracy. The Cheat Sheet: As we strive to achieve success, there are natural limits on how hard we can work and how smart we can be. There's no denying that luck plays a part in this achievement. Understand the role of luck, talent, and hard work in the overall formula. Discover why we tend to minimize the role of luck in our success. Find out how to maximize our luck in life by way of context outside of talent and work. Learn new ways to look at the luck factor and turn it to our advantage. And so much more... Learn over 500 subjects (no tests or homework!) at The Great Courses Plus -- The Art of Charm listeners get one month free here! Hate grocery shopping but you love to cook? Blue Apron delivers recipes and farm fresh ingredients to you. As an Art of Charm listener, you get your first two meals free here! Does your business have an Internet pres

In this Minisode Monday, Jordan reflects on a grumpy old man he met in New York City and wonders if this fellow was a grumpy young man, or if he became that way over time. The Cheat Sheet: Some say that people don't change. But if you listen to this podcast, you already know that's not true. The real question is: are you making an effort to change for the better, or are you just letting change happen with the passage of time? How do you see yourself today as compared to how you were ten years ago? Are you making deposits to your relationships, or are you constantly on borrowed credit? How do you react when things don't go your way -- do you blame others or take responsibility? We're always working toward something -- either by effort or default. Are you allowing yourself to have a say in how the future you fits into the world, or are you slowly trudging along the path to curmudgeonry? To learn more about social dynamics and productivity hacks, take the Art of Charm Challenge by clicking here, or text CHARMED

Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we'll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let's cut to it! In this episode: Like our new show music? It's Start Shootin' by Little People. As a freelancer, how do you politely ask current clients for referrals? [Related: Boomerang] Is it wrong to leave the door open to a relationship that's been broken by the presence of a psychotic alter-ego? How does someone go about getting audio testimonials from satisfied customers (as we do for our AoC Bootcamps)? [Related: Alex Kouts] How would James Bond make a smooth transition to the private sector -- and explain a lack of social media presence to a potential employer? Advice for overcoming cold calling fear. [Related: episode 554 with Daniel Pink, author of To Sell Is Human, Bill Guertin's The 800-Pound Gorilla of Sales, and various books by Jeb Blount] If you're in a relationship that ever makes you feel in danger, you'll want to hear our interview with Gavin

Clint Emerson (@100deadlyskills) is a retired Navy SEAL, founding partner of crisis management and risk mitigation company Escape the Wolf, and author of 100 Deadly Skills: Survival Edition: The SEAL Operative's Guide to Surviving in the Wild and Being Prepared for Any Disaster. The Cheat Sheet: How much of a SEAL's life is training, and how much is spent in active deployment? How can we spot potential terrorists in the making? What's an express kidnapping, and what can you do if you find yourself in the middle of one? What are the four tiers of awareness? How do you make yourself inconspicuous (or "grey") in public places to avoid scrutiny from people who mean you harm? And so much more... Want three free rides up to $10 each? Download the free Lyft app today and enter promo code AOCPODCAST in the payment section! Whether you're a lady or a gent, you don't need to know what MicroModal fabric is to enjoy the comfort of MeUndies; you just need to wear them -- support this show (and yourself) with MeUndies he

Mike Rowe (@mikeroweworks) of Dirty Jobs fame joins us to talk about the skills gap, authenticity, and life experiences possible outside the comfort zone. Just don't tell him he's following his passion. The Cheat Sheet: Did you know Mike Rowe started his show business career in opera -- to get women? What are Anagnorisis and Peripeteia? Discover how Mike broke a pattern of commodity hosting by approaching the profession as a tradesman. Bromide busting and the problems with conventional wisdom. Why finding and filling a niche may ultimately be better than chasing what you think is your dream job. And so much more... Wearing a stylish timepiece shouldn't break the bank. Art of Charm listeners can find out why MVMT is the fastest-growing watch company in the world for 15% off with free shipping and free returns here! Learn over 500 subjects (no tests or homework!) at The Great Courses Plus -- The Art of Charm listeners get one month free here! Want to reach the fabled inbox zero? SaneBox learns what email is i

In this Minisode Monday, guest James Clear rejoins us to talk about how pre-commitment (aka implementation intentions) can make following through with a plan more likely. The Cheat Sheet: "Amateurs do things when it's easy -- when they feel motivated to do them. Professionals do things on a schedule." -James Clear Pre-commitment (aka implementation intentions) is the idea that if you lay out a plan for implementing your behavior with a very specific time, place, and location, you're much more likely to follow through. In one particular study, ninety percent of the group that made made a pre-commitment with implementation intentions were compliant with their goal. Discover how Jordan uses the pre-commitment to implementation intentions in his own schedule to get what some consider an outrageous amount of things done every week. (This applies to work as well as leisure.) To learn more about social dynamics and productivity hacks, take the Art of Charm Challenge by clicking here, or text CHARMED to 33444. Also

Sally Hogshead (@SallyHogshead), author of Fascinate: How to Make Your Brand Impossible to Resist, rejoins the show to tell us how our audience scored in her Fascination Advantage Assessment. You'll be as surprised as she was when you hear the results! The Cheat Sheet: Personality Danger Zones -- understanding how other people see us and maximizing the chances of making a positive first impression. The upsides and downsides to creativity. How positive attributes can translate into pitfalls. Do you partake of "idea snobbery?" What patterns do Art of Charm listeners have most in common? And so much more... Find out more about the team who makes The Art of Charm podcast here! Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/sally-hogshead-fascination-advantage-assessment-bonus/ HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need. Review the show in iTunes! We rel

Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we'll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let's cut to it! In this episode: A recovering smart alec wonders how to get a second chance at a bad first impression. Zooming out on talent to see the skill beneath. How do you become so interesting that people can't help but befriend you, hire you, and line up around the block to get your attention? A close friend suddenly stops responding to every effort at contact -- how can you find out what went wrong? When you're a child of the world, your hybrid accent is nothing to be ashamed of. When you've been burned in past relationships, how do you get over the "there are no good [women/men]" fallacy? [Related: Kimberly Seltzer's advice for How to Find a Therapist] Shoutouts to Konrad -- who used negotiation tactics he learned at AoC while working on The Paris Agreement -- and Xana, who benefits most from our Minisode Monday episodes! Have any questions, comments, o

Jessica Tracy (@ProfJessTracy) is a professor of psychology at the University of British Columbia in Vancouver, Canada, where she also directs the Emotion & Self Lab. She is the author of Take Pride: Why the Deadliest Sin Holds the Secret to Human Success. The Cheat Sheet: Pride is a universal human emotion and a force that can be harnessed to help humans succeed -- it's a key ingredient to confidence. Understand the difference between hubristic and authentic pride -- why we should seek out one but try to minimize the other. Learn how pride intersects with grit (per episode 526 guest Angela Duckworth). Identify pride to gain an advantage in shifting our own behavior and knowing how to react to others. Discover how the statuses of dominance and prestige are affected by pride. And so much more... Over at the Mind Pump Podcast, hosts Adam Schafer, Justin Andrews, and Sal Di Stefano “pull back the curtain on the mythology, snake oil, and pseudo-science that pervades the fitness industry." Check it out here! Doe

Joi Ito (@joi) is the director of the MIT Media Lab, a professor of practice in media arts and sciences at MIT, and co-author of Whiplash: How to Survive Our Faster Future. [Photo by Andy Ryan] "Education is what people do to you, and learning is what you do to yourself." -Joi Ito The Cheat Sheet: How does someone who dropped out of college three times wind up directing a lab at MIT? The pros and cons of formal learning vs. informal learning. Why does diversity make for better problem solving? What's the secret to building a deep and diverse network? What do running a World of Warcraft guild and spinning records as a club DJ have to do with motivating groups and accomplishing big goals? And so much more... Does your business have an Internet presence? Now save a whopping 50% on new webhosting packages here with HostGator by using coupon code CHARM! Find out more about the team who makes The Art of Charm podcast here! Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/595/ HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, p

In this Minisode Monday, we talk about the pointless habit we all have of mentally reliving embarrassing moments in our lives and what we can do to stop it. Let's get to it! The Cheat Sheet: There are times when we all mull over embarrassing moments from our past. Like worrying, it's a pointless exercise. Ivan Pavlov proved that he could anchor a dog's feelings to stimuli. As humans, we're even better at doing this to ourselves. We beat ourselves up over a story we've built around a feeling and reinforce this negative pattern. The challenge: every time you start mulling over an event that makes you feel bad about yourself, try to remind yourself of a moment in which you triumphed -- an event that made you feel good. Try to think of something new each week that's positive and helpful toward breaking the habit of gravitating toward the negative. To learn more about social dynamics and productivity hacks, take the Art of Charm Challenge by clicking here, or text CHARMED to 33444. Also be sure to check out our S

John Lee Dumas (@johnleedumas) is the founder and host of EOFire, an award-winning podcast where he chats with today's most successful entrepreneurs seven days a week -- with over 1400 interviews under his belt. How is he so productive? He shares some of his secrets with us here. The Cheat Sheet: How does John stay focused enough to put out a new podcast every single day and have a life? Does social media promote de-evolution? Where does John find new books to read (and what's been worth reading twice)? How does John cultivate the discipline to fight back against weapons of mass distraction? John shares some literal war stories. And so much more... Does your business have an Internet presence? Now save a whopping 50% on new webhosting packages here with HostGator by using coupon code CHARM! Find out more about the team who makes The Art of Charm podcast here! Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/john-lee-dumas-discipline-mastery-bonus/ HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please

Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we'll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. In this episode: Understanding people in person can be challenging enough. So how do we read between the lines when people write to us to determine the best advice to give? How do you remind yourself to do the doorway drill (as discussed on episode 582)? You don't really need to listen to The Art of Charm podcast anymore because you've got a handle on this stuff, right? Dr. Carol Dweck would probably disagree. Jordan is SUPER EXCITED TODAY! It's okay to be more respectful than you think you need to be. How do you get a cab in a busy city? Want our advice but you don't want your question made public? We can give you a secret identity! Need to make some ice, ice, baby? Jordan takes a strong Stance on socks. Do you tweet? Sweet! You can reach Jordan here and Jason here. Shoutouts to Jeff Ammons, Philip "Foxy" T, and Alex Kouts, for that matter! Have any questions, co

The Art of Charm (@TheArtofCharm) trio of Johnny, AJ, and Jordan goes over the importance of resilience and how we can develop it to be ready for anything life throws our way. [Photo by Art Bromage] The Cheat Sheet: What is resilience and why is it so important? Consider resilience as a bedrock mindset upon which other improvements are built. Johnny, AJ, and Jordan share personal examples of the role resilience has played in their lives here at AoC. "Bend, don't break." Learn actionable techniques for developing resilience that will make you ready for anything. And so much more... Order clothes online and try before you buy with JackThreads! Go to JackThreads.com and enter code CHARM when you submit your try-out for 20% off anything you keep! Does your business have an Internet presence? Now save a whopping 50% on new webhosting packages here with HostGator by using coupon code CHARM! Find out more about the team who makes The Art of Charm podcast here! Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/594/ HELP US SP

Roy Wood Jr. (@roywoodjr) was on Variety's 10 Comics to Watch For list in 2016, is currently a correspondent on The Daily Show with Trevor Noah, and is the star of Father Figure on Comedy Central. The Cheat Sheet: Learn how a youthful indiscretion was "the most important thing" that led Roy Wood Jr. to pursue a life of comedy. Discover how a forgiving journalism school and a deal with his mother gave Roy's comedy career the low-stakes structure it needed to grow early on. Find out how Roy took being booed off stage as an opportunity to learn rather than as a soul-crushing defeat. How does a performer stay visible and relevant in such a hyper-competitive landscape? Understand how comics practice nuances you may not even notice to punctuate their presentations (and how Roy learned to lose some of his bad habits by observation). And so much more... Are you trying to hire the right person for your business, but the best candidates keep slipping away? Let ZipRecruiter -- the fastest way to hire great people -- h

Jonathan Raymond, author of Good Authority: How to Become the Leader Your Team Is Waiting For, tells us how we can let go of resistance to change by using the DANCE Method. If you've ever struggled with time management, you'll really appreciate the example he demonstrates! Let's get to it! The Cheat Sheet: D: Define the problem simply. A: Assess the impact. N: Name the underlying dynamic. C: Create the smallest next step you can. E: Establish personal accountability. To learn more about social dynamics and productivity hacks, take the Art of Charm Challenge by clicking here, or text CHARMED to 33444. Also be sure to check out our Social Capital Intensive here! Let us know about how you put today's Minisode Monday into practice! Tweet with @TheArtofCharm in your response or write to Jordan directly: jordan@theartofcharm.com (he actually reads everything)! Listen to The Art of Charm, The Forbes List, and hundreds of your favorite podcasts with the free PodcastOne app (on iOS and Android) here! Does your busin

Kerry Dolan (@KerryDolan), Assistant Managing Editor of Wealth at Forbes, curates the Forbes World Billionaires List. The Forbes List, hosted by Jordan Harbinger, reveals the details behind the lists that don't make it to the magazine or online. You'll get a deeper look at what it takes to put together Forbes' lists of the top companies, wealthiest people, and biggest celebrities in the world. In this first episode, Forbes Assistant Managing Editor Kerry Dolan joins Jordan to discuss: How Forbes verifies wealth. How list makers spend their money. How inherited and self-made billionaires differ. How list makers respond to rank. The drastic measures one billionaire took to get off the list. And so much more... Find out more about the team who makes The Art of Charm podcast here! Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/kerry-dolan-the-forbes-list-bonus/ HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd